To stay consistent, it’s not enough to have the desire for consistency – you have to BE consistent first!
But equally, you have to honour where you’re at; and sometimes inconsistency occurs because actually, you’ve outgrown what you are doing/ it’s not what you’re meant to be doing/ you’re resisting it through fear of the outcome/ and what you’re doing isn’t allowing you to shine your light in the only way that you can.
So before you berate yourself with your own inconsistency, ask why it’s occurring.
This Is Why You Feel Disconnected From Your Message, Purpose, + Life
In a similar way to feel CONNECTED I have to BE CONNECTED –
when I disconnect – not from technology or social media! necessarily, but
- in my journal
- in my blog
- in my writing/books
and even in sharing my message –
I feel disconnected! I flake out even more, feel dissatisfied and irritable and my husband bears a lot of that weight! .. because… I’m disconnected from my self.
It takes DISCIPLINE to be connected and consistent. If you want to be more spiritual/successful/consistent/present? It doesn’t just happen. All of it is a daily practice and habit. To feel connected – be connected.
Releasing spiritual and success shame
It’s easy to be an online entrepreneur, but if you’re in/around the coaching sphere – or actually – any sphere – it’s so easy to feel guilt and beat yourself up about not being good enough at one thing or another.
Which I guess is a bit like life – except where you beat yourself up in ‘real life’ about not being thin/pretty/organic enough, in the ‘online space’ you now also have to be a super spiritual/super successful/super kick-ass/living a 6D fully dimensional, entirely conscious life (yes! – that’s a thing) –
and not only that you also have to be all of it and live it, while kicking ass at yoga, while living in a tree-house in Costa Rica, having flown first class via LA (obvs!), which you manifested while releasing all past trauma.
SO USE THAT FEELING OF INADEQUACY TO FIND WHAT IT IS THAT YOU ARE GOOD AT. What lights you up, what makes you laugh, what you love to do. I fell back in love with yoga this year, with writing, with business, surprisingly for me because I thought that all I wanted to do was write books, when NOPE, the universe knocked me full force back into entrepreneurship.
But before that, having space away from it made me dig deeper into my purpose – writing books and creating businesses I love, and not being an online celebrity.
Because when you feel that weight of not being good enough at all of it, these are your choices:
- get better at what you’re good at
- tune out of it – stop scrolling (for a while)
- reconnect with nature, creativity and self-care
- connect with an amazing team who’ll help protect you from noise, keep you accountable and on track
And sometimes you just simply need to ask yourself – what are YOU passionate about?
Who do you serve?
Why does it matter?
Connecting with your inner wisdom, and what you already know to be true.
That and a few minutes of yoga every day has really helped me re-balance and reconnect and remind myself of what really matters this year.
You don’t have to be ‘an online celebrity’/’visible’/’everywhere’ to run a successful online business.
I fell into the trap of believing that maybe last year/early this year, about how success now has to be about the cult of self, and it’s never sat well with me.
I’m an introvert, I love time alone, I hate being centre of attention and like most people I find it easy (or used to) to get caught up in the obsession of likes/comments/shares/mailing list size.
Really. While I have plans to share my message much more in 2018, it’s NOT because I have any desire whatsoever to be any sort of online celebrity, but for these reasons;
- to inspire others
- to be a record/inspiring for my kids
- to stay feeling committed and connected for myself
If you’re sharing stuff online because you think:
- you have to ‘get more visible’
- that’s what ‘showing up’ means
- and you’re beating yourself up because your Facebook Group haven’t heard from you for a week and/or you worry that what you’re posting is boring/pointless/irrelevant/ok but doesn’t light up anybody’s life
Is it any wonder it all feels difficult and uncomfortable??
This is kind of a mixed point between why you need to show up online and how to show up online, but my original point was this –
I signed a partnership agreement for a new business deal last week. I’m working alongside a great 8-fig ‘online entrepreneur’ who runs several online businesses, and who is completely anonymous. He’d never heard of me and I’d never of him. He barely has any ‘online profile’ at all, except for the odd normal Facebook post about sport/his kids.
The point is it’s easy to believe it’s the one who makes the most noise online who wins, but actually I got this partnership NOT based on what I’m doing online, how much money I’ve earned, and how many followers I got on IG this week; but on being good at what I’m good at, starting my intentions for what I wanted and then making smart moves based on and around opportunity.
Sometimes we get so caught up in our ‘online presence’ opportunity is right under our nose, and we’re missing it while we’re caught up obsessing about our followings.
If you’re going to share, share because you can’t not. Create and share because it’s a habit that flows out of you and not because it’s something you feel you have to do to stand out and get clients!!
The funny thing is, when you do that, your visibility kinda expands naturally anyway!
Do one thing brilliantly and then expand.
I’m the typical entrepreneurial thinker, head full of ideas and dying to start all of them ASAP, only to quit a little further down the road, when I realise it’s not that aligned after all. Here’s a list of just a few of the biz ideas I’ve half started:
- Working Mama – a blog for mums in business (half started)
- Wolfmama – a blog for natural conscious parents (half started0
- Freedom School – a joint venture, aligned in values but not working as a collab due to timings
- Organic Baby – a natural baby online store
- Comfort & Joy – a gift shop online of things that nurture your soul and happiness
Not to mention endless programs and countless domain names! Probably at least a million ideas. (The one thing I DO follow through on is my books because, they’re aligned and my true purpose)!
This scattered focus leads to some gems of ideas but also leads to lack of follow through, locking yourself into a business that was never really aligned or felt that good in the first place, and distraction from your real passions that you’re good at.
Do one thing you’re good at (fast) and then add on, so that you’re building a ‘backbone’ of strength, income, consistency, passion.
But also – in total contradiction – give yourself total permission and freedom to try new things – I don’t consider any idea I ran with for a while a waste of time, but something I had to learn from. That expression of ‘stay in your lane’ really grates on me – it’s a bit like being told you have to be JUST ONE THING when you grow up.
No, you don’t, but focus first on the thing you love the most.
Yep, they still convert well for some people. But my opinion is they’re dying. Why? Too many ads running webinars, too much fluff and filler content nobody has time to sit through, too many up-sells.
I built three complete webinars PLUS funnels this year – literally ready to go – I just had to release them.
I didn’t put out a single one. It just didn’t feel good. I felt like I was following ‘the good entrepreneur’ route, which I’m not, and doing what I should be doing rather than what feels amazing (sharing my message, writing books, building brilliant businesses).
Growing business in authentic, organic ways.
GET A PHOTOSHOOT
Seriously. Ok, this isn’t strictly business, but we hired the marvellous photographer and client of mine, Isabel Sacher, to come to photograph us in Cyprus earlier this year, and those photos are so precious to us. They’re memories of a place we no longer live in, where dreams and incredible things were birthed and where we truly began to live a freedom life and find purpose, where we started homeschooling, and where our kids have spent longer living in than the country of their birth – they’re more Cypriot now than British!
I’ve planned to do this every year from now on – there is nothing quite like seeing your kids through somebody else’s eyes, and even as a professional level photographer myself, it’s nice to actually BE in some of the shots with my kids (even if I do feel slightly awkward that side of the camera)!
Plus, then I can be super lazy and use one of Isabel’s shots for my blog if I don’t have any to hand of my own, so this one is kind of business too. I’d share more, but I still have issues around sharing photos of my daughters online for public consumption. That’s for another post…
JOURNAL FOR RESULTS
My journal has been the most magical, awe-inspiring tool/guide/spellbook this year. In January I journalled I work with amazing women in Italy this summer. In July I worked with amazing women in Milan and on the Italian Coast. In July I journalled I live in a Chateau in France. I now write this to you from a chateau in France.
I’ve also used it to stay a calmer parent, help work thought marital issues, set intentions for business change and growth and so many other things.
all have become reality…
This year, probably more than any year, I seriously think my journalling had magical powers. It’s even surprised me, and most of you know what an advocate of journalling I am.
I can’t WAIT to see where journalling gets me in 2018!
FINAL REVELATION – DON’T WAIT
So many of my coaching clients come to me and say ‘I’m doing X’ or ‘I want to do X’ and ‘I have this MASSIVE dream/goal but I’m waiting until the time is right’, or ‘when I’ve got enough capital/time/not yet’.
This year I realised (DUH!) that if I kept putting off writing books until I had time away from my business, then I’m hardly likely to sell a million books, am I??!
Yep, this was a journaling revelation which seems so obvious but you have to work backward from the outcome you want!
Don’t wait. Not even until 2018.
You can change everything today, if you choose to.
But above all, ask yourself this;
What really matters?
How can I do more of it?