Are you in a state of transition?
Being multi-passionate, I’ve realised that I often feel like I am in a constant state of transition, which brings along with it, a huge dose of indecision.
While I am in the middle of discovering or revelling in
*insert favourite passion or shiny thing here* but for me yoga/meditation/photography/steiner schools/marketing automations are all relatively recent ones
I am alive, vibrant, absorbed, excited.
I come up with a million one ideas for businesses or blogs or things I could do within each passion. How I can grow, improve, learn more, push more perhaps, go deeper, become amazing at.
I could write books about this! I could write posts about this! I must share this with the whole entire world because it’s so amazing and everyone needs to know about this and they must know about this nowww because it’s going to change the WORLD-
And then I surface for air from what has been a time of blissful learning and growth and kind of go…
Oh. Well, what now?
What to actually do with everything I’m learning / gaining / know/ love?
In a practical sense, it means
*an endless series of website redesigns,
*eating phases that jump from juicing to ayurveda to protein-based to vegan and anything inbetween,
*Sometimes you feel a bit dark and edgy; and other times you’re a boho nomad and other times you just want to feel pretty.
*And sometimes you want to stay in a massive beachside mansion and sometimes it’s a random tree house.
And you know that really… all of those things are better than fine.
To love so many things, to have so many passions, to appreciate so many manifestations of this beautiful thing called life, is a blessing.
Except when it feels like it isn’t.
I didn’t want to feel scattered across a hundred million different starry visions.
It’s a fruitful time on the island. Somewhere inbetween olive and fig. We walk tenderly on the prickly ground of the orchard, picking the fruit from our trees in the warm rays of the sun.
I feel earthed, grounded. Reminded of provision, of promises.
But I needed my business to feel this way too. I felt a calling for it.
And sometimes, that’s what being multi-passionate can feel like.
I wanted to bring it all together as One.
So I thought I would put everything just under my name and then I could create whatever I felt called to,
then someone stole my domain name – my actual name!!! how many other people in the world are possibly called Charlie Kingsland-Barrow? –
and so I was forced to dig deeper.
And if you seek more grounding too, if you desire clarity and focus and to feel more together, more grounded, more earthed-
Write everything down in a big list, of everything you love.
My list concentrated on things I love to learn about, my interests and passions;
yours could be moments or images or the things that light you up.
It’s supposed to be vast.
And beside each thing on my list- I wrote down what I loved about it. What qualities it had, why I found it so wonderful.
A game of word association.
So next to Photography I wrote – People. Observing. Stories. Moments. Memory. Distance. Isolation.
next to Faith I wrote Encouraging. Inspiring. Guidance. Wisdom. Love
next to Women I wrote Kindness. Belief. Encouragement. Strength.
next to Blogging I wrote Expression. Speech. Freedom. Creativity. Absorption.
next to Nutrition I wrote Health. Wellness. Energy. Eye-opening. Safety. Joy. Livelong.
Snowboarding was Vibrancy, Nature, Challenging….
And then, deeper still.
WHY does each thing matter.
And what I realised was this.
A single word jumped out.
And no doubt if I had carried on writing down every single word around why each thing mattered I would have seen a pattern, this certain word occurring more than once.
And this single word collided in perfect synchronicity with a conversation I happened to have the night before.
‘what do I do’ she asked me, ‘how can I get what I want?’ and we talked a lot about love.
My word? Was the word that I could find at the heart of every single thing that matters to me.
I became a wedding photographer because I am a ridiculous romantic that cried at every single wedding I photographed. My images have always been cameos of love.
I am interested in nutrition because there have been times in my life have reflected in my distinct lack of self-LOVE for my body.
Now a- I’ve lost people I adored to cancer and therefore I want to use nutrition to heal, not to harm- and b- because I want to stick around for as long as possible in the lives of my children, because I love them.
All, grounded in love.
Astrology- my star sign, Libra, represented by Venus – planet and goddess of love.
Cyprus, where I live. Island of love, birthplace of Aphrodite, Goddess of Love;
France, art, marketing, money, yoga, crystals, words, my faith ; everything – all grounded by some way, for me, in Love.
Everything on your list can be is probably held together by one, or at the most a few, vital and vast parts of you.
Find the word that comes closest to representing it.
And when you find it-
You can either decide whether to stay in transition state, and to maximise the incredible potential that this gift gives you.
And you can choose to LOVE it because it is your choice, and choose to release the anxiety and confusion that comes with it.
See each transition stage as choice, and make your choices swiftly, without too much deliberation and regret. Not many things are unchangeable.
You can be on the floor thankful, like I am, to realise the commonality between all of your passions and your magical driving force behind them.
I feel a champagne cork has exploded in my mind and I have GOT IT, clearly, for the first time in a LONG time, and I feel I am returning to myself.
To ALL of me.
And it doesn’t mean that you limit yourself to becoming just one thing – indeed more possibilities, more ideas, more avenues open up, and always will do to the multi-passionate, big-dreaming mind.
But you can gain clarity and focus and a deep understanding of why you do what you do. A place to root your ideas within, a frame of reference if you ever need it, a place to use as an internal guide when you need to ask ‘why am I doing this?’.
Being multi-passionate often results in times of murky non-clarity and indecision and anguish and anxiety. But it doesn’t have to be this way.
To your multi-passionate gifts, callings, and bliss. And to everything that you love.
Love and light xo