Here’s what they don’t get about having a purpose, a gift, a calling, or the simple desire to make a big difference.
I received another message this week, and it contained the following
‘I doubt if you’ve ever finished anything you’ve ever started before getting bored because it wasn’t being shown enough ‘love’ ‘.
Now, I try to send my haters love and light.
I think they deserve sympathy, understanding, kindness.
I feel bad something must have happened to them to cause so much hatred within them that they need to create groups of anger and rage and use the precious minutes we have on this earth to send hate-filled messages.
And so, I send love. Because I believe that’s what the world needs more of. More love, more action grounded in love.
But with this line, I had to laugh.
Some people? They just don’t get it do they?
It’s been a gradual dawning deep within, for a while now.
That some, will just never get it.
This is what they don’t understand.
We don’t change direction because we thrive off the appreciation of others.
You see, the mistake they made was thinking that we do this for someone else.
Long, long ago, we got over the need to please!
To people-please, to try to be popular, to create with mindless single intention of gaining likes and love.
To try to fit into this perfect vision of what we should become, believe, think, eat, do, look like.
Some people literally live and die for the appreciation of others.
Whether or not their videos or shares get enough likes, what their parents think, whether or not they will need to avoid or have certain conversations with certain people, whether they can squeeze their bodies into whatever physique society tells them is now desirable, make a certain amount of money that defines success.
They thrive off the drama that comes with trying to make people follow and adore them. Trying to squeeze themselves into a perfect IG filter like-life.
What you and I know, is that being a true creative, true entrepreneur, or someone who wants to share light and love in their mission and purpose- has zero to do with that.
We create because we can’t not. We change direction because we can’t not. We follow the call – wherever that might take us – because we can’t not.
Long ago we made the decision to follow our voices, our dreams, our pathways carved out for us as if it were centuries-old.
You’ve always known, haven’t you? Not for you, the easy, comfortable, predictable life.
And the love, the glory, the adoration, always comes a minor secondary to what we are called to.
We are the multi-passionate big dreamers; and we will wade through whatever we need to wade through (usually is our own heads and thoughts).
We are strong (even at times when we feel weak). Because if we were not strong, we would slip easily back into the road most travelled. The 9-5’s, the easy job, the constant TV series and the golden handcuffs of a predictable salary.
And to most people, we often seem unfocused, scattered, non-committal.
Flighty, changeable, uncertain.
But we know the reality.
God, the universe, your very heart and soul, the eyes of your children; untainted by ‘should dos’ and societal expectation.
They all know the truth of your reality, the essence of your very being.
And they know that actually, you are the opposite.
In your trials, in your wanderings, your journeys, your adventures, your explorations into the deepest and darkest recesses of yourself, your surroundings, your creativity, your ideas, your thoughts;
You are nothing BUT committed.
Committed to the path you are certain is there for you, even if you don’t know exactly how that looks and feels yet.
You know you were put here to make a difference. To touch the lives of others. To dream, to create, to unite, to love.
And you will do it imperfectly.
And we are moving now, aren’t we? Into a growing acceptance of imperfection.
This is us. This is me. This is what I am capable of. I am not perfect, and no more pretending to even try to be.
We aren’t trying to be perfect any more.
Someone else’s vision of perfection, projected on to you and your existence.
We can shake it off (Thank you, Taylor).
And what this post is really about is you, and me, understanding and knowing and believing together in a future that is far greater than someone else’s expectations and predictions of who you are and what you should be.
Does this mean you shouldn’t deliver, or follow through?
It means that you give yourself permission to do what is best for you, and yes, sometimes that will mean you let people down.
Sometimes you will not be able to fill everyone’s expectations.
Sometimes you will upset them. And it’s not deliberate. It’s not with the intention of causing harm. But it’s what happens when you speak out. When you create boundaries of protection around who you are.
Giant change requires giant truth, giant belief, giant action. And some people will always resist giant change.
But then, the moment you decided to honour your call
To follow your dream
To speak your truth in whatever way that comes out and being absolutely FEARLESS in speaking it-
To dare to dream at all –
You made that choice.
And now you get to honour it.
You don’t need to create what you think will ‘sell’. Or what you think will generate Likes, or Shares.
Because when you follow what you truly desire, you will get all of the Love you need anyway.
Of course, there is a fine line between love and the opposite. And sometimes they will love you, and sometimes they won’t.
What matters is you carry on creating. Carry on showing up in your life, in your creativity, in your passions and in your vibrancies.
For you, there will never be a downfall, so you have nothing to fear.
Downfalls are for people who are static, afraid, fearful. Downfalls are for people who cling on to one thing, afraid to branch out, afraid to follow their truth and their light and the new – fearful of what they might say and think and do.
For you, there will always be another way to move into your joy, your bliss.
Because you know it comes not from any amount of external appreciation, but from within.
Your creativity and calling, will never be a single external manifestation they can take away from you, and you must understand this if you want to create freely, without fear; to truly step into your light and your path.
Give yourself permission to fail. And yes, to let people down sometimes. And yes, to not meet others expectations.
Because those old notion of ‘success and failure’ and ‘to be reliable’ and all of the other tick box hangovers from an industrialised, mechanised, commercial era-
You are not part of that.
You are the new.
You are the light.
And if you want to make ANY sort of change or difference in the world
It starts by honouring yourself, first.
By claiming your desires, first.
By saying what needs to be said, doing what needs to be done.
Release yourself of the outcome.
You have a message to share. Love, light, deep and eternal wisdom, creative gifts, and encouragement to share.
And it starts with you, first.
Love and Light