(What Needs To Be Done For Life + Business Now)_
Masculine energy is strong. Assertion, aggression, unstoppable, fast, confrontational when necessary.
The feminine is also strong. Associated with receiving, openness, gentleness, tolerance, patience. It’s Mother-love.
Our world is still overtly masculine. Education is dominated by the masculine, so is medicine, science, and of course politics.
But the way to overcome masculine dominance might not be with more masculine dominance. Fight-fight situation, until one person wins.
Rioters rarely win. Anger rarely wins. Arguments, heat of the moment words and decisions, made from fear, bias and judgement, cannot be undone. There is usually a winner in war, but can there ever be a true triumph when there is death and casualty?
When we embrace more of the feminine – within ourselves, our relationships, with eachother and the entire world –
When we consider what it truly means to be feminine – and I’m not talking about shiny hair and pony-like exterior (another masculine fantasy)-
We move more into openness, tolerance, understanding. A better worldview, a better us, a better kind of love.
Not that the masculine isn’t valid.
It’s so needed. It is the catalyst for creation, the catalyst for change.
But the imbalance is the ill.
What if instead of berating what we hate, we embraced it. We think ourselves so above the negativity, yet even in the very act of hating the hate we become it.
What if instead of reacting with anger and explosion, we turned to one another and considered, first.
Trump could never not have won, for the masculine anger created against the things he stood for would need somewhere to go. The same with Brexit.
Riots, more fear, disaffection, hatred would result. Now at least the anger has resolution, an outlet, can be guided.
My client this week, chose fear.
I’m scared to offer mentoring she said, because someone else in a group said it’s only for people who are desperate to make fast cash. I don’t want to offend my peers.
Fear manifests itself in the most disempowering of ways– Not only had this person leaving the comment about mentoring completely disregarded the entire education system in one fell swoop, (because mentoring, at its heart, is teaching) but also revealed their own misperceptions, their own bias.
Which we take to be truth.
THIS is the truth.
When we react in fear, we embrace neither masculine or feminine, because both are strong. Strength, born from love, and Fear- do not co-exist. So in choosing fear, we neglect to realise our strength.
And you can go head to head and argue and fight and riot, and win. But you also suffer the battlescars, somewhere.
What if instead, we opened, embraced, chose more of the feminine alongside our masculine conditioning.
They will always have an opinion, and that opinion is based in fear. It is not of you, it is of fear, and of themselves, and therefore it is irrelevant to you.
As I told my client – if I cared what people thought of me, I would no longer be in business.
Instead, seeing as I decided to ignore comments like that a long time ago, my clients have gone on to quit their full time jobs, replace full time incomes, get published, get 1000s of people on their email list, get published in their dream publications and so on.
But I understand where their comments come from, and that’s what matters– embrace your feminine, see things as they really are, realise where they stem from, and chose how to react.
Masculine, or feminine, you get to choose.
This week I’ve been embracing the spark and have been creating.
The Female Creatives Association has had new content, the free blogging course has had a refresh, there is a new facebook page and group! (ok not entirely new group, it has over 1000 members! but a refreshed group)
I’ve been busily working on a project I’ve been dreaming of for years until when I got bored of continuously thinking about it recently and decided to just actually get on and do it (going live VERY soon)!
My children’s book has now changed direction and we are considering making the entire thing beautiful watercolour
I’ve been working with a ton of 1:1 clients who are achieving amazing things;
Planning my big Black Friday surprise
AND, my yoga teacher training starts next month- not because I plan on teaching yoga but because, I desire that challenge.
I desire that challenge which threatens to break us down, change all of our thoughts and intentions, and feels like a real risk, a threat to everything I think I know
And what that happens, I shall try to soften, receive, understand.
And fight back of course, but not from fear-
From love, and from something I truly believe in and understand.
To love what you do completely requires we embrace both masculine and feminine; when you create- thoughts, work, goals, self, the world- with love and pure intention, you cast out the fear.
Love and Light xo