I reflected yesterday upon all the places I have been able to visit this year.
From the beautiful Hotel Chandler in New York to staying on The Palm in Dubai; and probably my favourites, the beautiful UK manor houses – from the entire suite my husband booked and filled with gifts (including my first Mont Blanc pen! He knows me so well! Keep the shoes, bags- a perfect pen for my writer’s heart) at The Bath Priory –
(where I also had my first michelin starred dining experience- how have I not eaten Michelin until now I don’t know…) to my VIP days with clients at The Grove and Cowley Manor… and so many more beautiful places.
That’s not a brag list (although it is cool I have been able to make that happen)! I wasn’t sitting there celebrating my success, but reflecting.
As I reflected on all of these incredible places, the thought drifted into my mind how incredible it was that these places were once just somebody’s vision, somebody’s dream.
This place where I am sitting right now, which is my new regular place where I go to work at the on-site hotel, I look around at and think about how amazing it truly is-
That they had never existed, never been built, until somebody happened to dream about them and plan for them in their mind’s eye first. And then line by line, brick by brick, they came to life. I find that the most mind-blowing thing! Don’t even get me started on the pyramids! 😉
And here’s what I think many entrepreneurs forget in the grand scheme of planning our dreams, our empires, building our grand visions for change and impact; the building of something magnificent, whether that’s your beautiful freedom-based life, vast buildings or your online empire-
We forget the details. We forget our vision isn’t JUST the building, the money, the legacy, the service, the impact.
We forget that our businesses aren’t just businesses. They are our entire lives!
YOUR LIFE IS YOUR BUSINESS. Yet we keep trying to split it up and compartmentalise things.
I realised yesterday one of the reasons I am so truly in love with my husband (besides the fact we truly work at our marriage and place it as absolute priority) is that he (now) gets it.
He gets the drive, the ambition, the way I just won’t stop no matter what. And I think he knows that I simply can’t. And he is happy to support that, even if that means to some degree we need to compromise in other areas-
Because he knows, this is the way it’s always been. Relentless ideas, creativity, ambition does not rest, or sleep. It just carries on and on and on.
And you think it will pause, or you can bury it, or minimise it or channel it somehow into being a small part of your life- because you’ve been surrounded for most of your life who don’t really get it.
The rest of the world thinks that business or work has to be squeezed into the 9-5 when the reality is, your bigger picture vision for your business will ALWAYS include being an amazing wife, or mother, or charity founder, or founder of XYZ incredible thing, builder of your dream home/s, traveller of the world because that is your dream- you dream of ALL of it.
And you don’t see why you should have to settle for less. Anything less than the beautiful estates, homes, supporter, encourager of many, donor.
And you won’t have to, unless you keep trying to compartmentalise everything.
This is why I don’t really gel with ‘business coaches’ as such. I don’t get it. How can you teach just about business, when business, our creations, our precious dreams- are rarely just about ONE THING?
I can’t help but think- what about the rest of your entire LIFE? Where is it? Where are the challenges, the failures not just in your business that you use as a marketing and copywriting tool but where is the reality of how you are building your entire life, not just ONE part of it? Because how can you trust and believe in someone when there is hardly any transparency, when, basically, it all comes down to JUST the money, JUST the business?
How can you run a business without it impacting your marriage, and how can you be married without that impacting your business? For example
This is the money, this is how I earned it and this is how I felt– sorry but that’s just flat out boring, and you can read that in any half decent business book or listen to any successful entrepreneurs story and they will tell you how they make the money but what about building the marriage at the same time as the vision? Being a great parent at the same time as the money flowing in? Being a great disciple and filling your life with faith and trust in something FAR bigger than yourself? What about the daily practice of actually taking care of your health and body?
What about those things? Aren’t they of EQUAL importance to you? Aren’t they all, when all is said and done, part of the exact same thing?! Your ENTIRE vision for what you want for your life?
Who said you can only have ONE vision, commit to ONE thing? And the thing is even if that was true…. it’s all the SAME thing! Success. In all areas. Maximum creativity, love, passion, freedom, wealth, impact.
When you commit to building something you believe in with every ounce of your being, when you’re looking to the future with a truly wide vision and deep understanding of what it’s really going to take – you have to draw everything in. You have to believe in ALL of it.
You paint the vision of the marriage you want, and you obsess over that. You paint the picture of the type of parent you want to be, and you obsess over that. You paint the picture of the MULTIPLE businesses you want, of ALL of the creativity and even more that you cannot picture just yet, and you obsess over each and every one of those.
And each element, each strand, is a brick that one-by-one, you pour that dream into, you mould, you shape, you lay and you BUILD. Foundations, walls, structure. You build on your knowledge and experience. You share that knowledge and experience. You inspire, grow, reach, stand tall.
And of course, you will never finish, because your dreams will never really be finished, will they? You just complete one at a time and move on into the next dream.
That’s what the dreamers do. The big dreamers who go ahead and make their dreams reality.
And you can, can’t you? You already are.
But you somehow are forgetting to dream for every other thing you want and value at the same time.
Because most people? Squeeze ‘work’ into the 9-5, or the 7-11 even, their marriages in to (and in front of) tv dinners, their parenting into storytime before bed and on sundays. That’s not a criticism- just the reality of how most people choose to work and live.
So no wonder your dreams – the all – encompassing ones- find it hard to breathe- squeezed into societal expectation.
It genuinely frustrates me that some people – even some people in particular that I absolutely love and care about – do not seem to believe they can have more. More incredible marriages, more incredible love, be calmer, kinder, gentler, more passionate more connected more on fire (no, those things definitely aren’t mutually exclusive) for their business and life and in building everything they ever wanted.
(and worse – that ‘more’ has become a negative state or mindset! in some sort of anti-capitalist backlash where we believe having LESS is actually productive, and absolutely indeed HAVING less might be, but CREATING less- because what, the world is already full of too much advancement?!!?
Because the world is already too full of ideas!?!? Too full of love, romance, beautiful buildings?!?! There is no such thing as too much creativity, too many ideas, too many things that you cannot follow through on, though the world and those who don’t understand will try to tell you that there is and no you can’t because…. )
Envision your bricks, every single one. Envision every single line and brick and detail. Every single day I write out my vision and in ways I totally did not imagine, it is coming to fruition. Some of it more slowly that I would like but a great deal faster than if I had relegated every other aspect of my life to the sidelines while I focussed on ‘building a business!’
And that’s the harsh reality that I see SO many people falling prey to. In building ONE element of their vision, they forget about everything else they ever dreamed of or desired. And that’s why they don’t talk about it. Because it simply is not their priority. You can see what truly matters to someone in what they share, what they talk about even, what their emails focus on, what they’re like in real life even.
And for some people that’s business and nothing else.
But for the creatives, the visionaries, those who believe in making a massive difference in their own lives not to mention thousands of others – for you, for I-
who, when we talk- we discuss change- We talk about the dreams that once created the most beautiful houses, the most incredible designs. We talk about love. We talk about endless creativity and success and aspiration and wealth and passion and building – we get entirely hyped up for the success of and for another even! not even a shred of envy or jealously because we all know there’s MORE than enough to go around and we know concretly we are making it anyway! – we discuss OUR change-
For you and I, the big dreamers, the action -takers, the believers in that creation and invention and faith and love and MONEY changes the world (and politics are kind of irrelevant, dare I say)
It will never be JUST about business, will it? But about building our entire vision for our entire lives, for entire generations!
Because it’s all there for you already, you know. And all you have to do is welcome it in- shape it, mould it, create it-
One beautiful brick at a time.
Love and Light xo
Have you got in on my Black Friday yet? I know, it’s early. But, our dreams don’t wait. And I’ll be honest- it’s not going to be for everyone.
The Business Boost Workshop is of course! about creating multiple revenue streams, but the workshop itself- which is why I said it’s not for everyone- is going to be a pretty confrontational look at the reality of why you haven’t got where you want to be yet.
It’s going to be HEAVY on the mindset because- if you’ve already read the zillions of online articles, had the cosy chats with your industry colleagues, joined countless facebook groups ‘for XYZ boss-babe-entrepreneur-marketer- XYZ’ers’ and you for some reason, STILL aren’t doing what you know, really, needs to be done?
The missing piece of the puzzle is YOU, and your mindset. That’s the simple truth of it. And in all honesty it’s my own biggest problem, and my client’s biggest problem, because like I said, we live in a world where actually, it’s pretty damn tough to exist as a dreamer and creative and maker and entrepreneur when the rest of the world just doesn’t seem to get it or understand!
And we need to sort that out if you’re going to get to where you want to go, so I am getting FAR more confrontational than usual in this workshop because I am so tired of seeing hugely passionate and brilliant talents let their dreams slip away because they simply don’t know what to do to make them happen!
AND; to support you in EVERY way I can- I’m going totally insane on this Black Friday offer and giving you… me. Me, you, 1:1.
Read the rest here. Workshop goes LIVE at midday EST THIS FRIDAY!